Talk to your son about who else he can go to for advice.Īnd finally, when you make the wrong call, set the wrong rule or react in the wrong way, take ownership, apologise, and then give yourself another chance. In order to win at parenting through puberty, have many talks over many years, and take them slowly.Īlso, find your surrogate. Every time you make a blanket statement, follow it with a short explanation of why. Use other people’s behaviour – both good and bad – as illustrations. Sitting inside the car on a drive is an ideal place for this. Not seeing one another can open the floodgates. Grab a “teachable” moment and turn off devices.Īvoid eye contact, at least in the beginning. When lads are ready to talk, be sure to listen, and ask questions too.
TO get the conversation going, take any discomfort you may feel about any of the subjects looked at here and multiply by 100 to understand how uncomfortable your son feels.